DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON.....

I came across this write-up sometime ago and thought i should share as this is still very relevant in today's world. It was written by Mother Theresa of blessed memory.

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common

question. She said, How do I know if I married the

right person?'

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to

her so I said, 'It Depends. Is that your husband?'

In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are

good that it's Weighing on your mind.



Here's the answer:

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you

fell in love with Your spouse. You anticipated their

call, wanted their touch, and liked

Their idiosyncrasy. Falling in love with your spouse

wasn't hard. In fact, it was a Completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.



People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my

feet.' Think about the Imagery of that expression. It

implies that you were just standing There;

Doing nothing, and then something came along and

happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and

spontaneous experience.



But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of

love fades. It's the Natural cycle of EVERY

relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls Become

A bother (if they come at all), touch is not always

welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's

idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive

You nuts.



The symptoms of this stage vary with every

relationship, but if you Think about your marriage,

you will notice a dramatic difference between the

initial stage when you were in love and a much duller

or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you

and/or your spouse might start Asking, 'Did I marry

The right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect

on the euphoria of The love you once had, you may

begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their

spouse for their Unhappiness and look outside their

marriage for fulfilment.



Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and

sizes. Infidelity is The most obvious. But sometimes

people turn to work, church, a hobby, a Friendship,

excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to

this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It

lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall

in love with someone else. You Could. And TEMPORARILY

you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation

a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):



THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE

RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU

FOUND.



SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous

experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't

'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and

day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor

of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy.

And most importantly, it Takes WISDOM. You have to

know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no

mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.. There are

specific Things you can do (with or without your

spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there

are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),

There are also laws for relationships. Just as the

right diet and exercise Program makes you physically

stronger, certain habits in your Relationship WILL

make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and

effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results

are predictable. .. You can 'make' love. Love in

Marriage is indeed a 'Decision'.. . Not just a Feeling.

'We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes.

But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us

forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act.



Be Patient. Forgive & Forget. Love One and All.



If you judge people, you have no time to love them'.

-- Mother Teresa

Never take some one for granted . Hold every person

Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day

and realise that you have lost a diamond while you

were too busy collecting stones.' Remember this always

in life.